#iNfidelityConselling to recover from the pain of adultery.

What is considered infidelity or an affair?

In #counselling #sessions we have come across number of situations where in #Delhi & #Gurgaon #couples have different standards for infidelity. Couples allow friendship of spouse to different level. In some cases till the time spouse is not attached emotionally they felt comfortable about any kind of friendship or affair spouse has . Most #couples &  #counselor think of infidelity or an affair as any sort of extra-‘marital’ relationship that detracts from either the emotional or physical/sexual relationship you are having with your significant other.

#Marriage #Counselling #tests to find #spouse can #cheat or will have an #extra #marital #affair sooner or later. You can take steps to improve your marriage NOW.
Some of the reasons a person may engage in #infidelity include:

  • A lack of #emotional #intimacy in the primary #relationship : This happens when couple starts taking each other for granted or Ego issues or expectation not being met & spouse now even stops expecting.
  • Sex addiction : Just want to have sex.
  • Avoidance of personal or relationship problems : Instead of talking about the issue to the spouse the spouse goes out & shares their emotional needs & starts a new relationship.
  • Depression : This can be from many reasons, when one spouse is in long term #depression of any kind then after a while both spouse gets tired of each other one serving the depressed person & the person who was depressed needs to find an adventure or just go out & have a different lifestyle.
  • Low #self-esteem : Loss of #job, No career, feel humiliated by spouse or #family, #Goals not accomplished etc.
  • Opportunity : Already in vulnerable #marriage & found ex or some one extra ordinary who may swept them away.
  • Primary relationship dissatisfaction : No respect for #marriage by spouse, feel neglected in marriage.
  • Using the affair as an exit strategy to end the primary relationship : Just using someone thinking if this happens the past can be forgotten.

It’s really easy to make assumptions when you have a suspicion. It’s easy because our brain doesn’t like to live in uncertainty.

And as long as we have one little proof that something might be wrong we need to make an assumption as quick as possible. And of course if there is some suspicion, the assumption will be 99% of the times negative.